I shared these thoughts on Facebook today, and I decided I wanted to share them here as well. The definition of marriage is an important issue to me, and I want to explain why exactly it is so important and what it means to me.
There has been a lot of furor lately over the Supreme Court's hearing on the legality of homosexual marriage. My personal beliefs are that homosexual marriage (and behavior) is wrong and sinful. In the words of the prophets, "Marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God and that the family is central to the Creator’s plan for the eternal destiny of His children . . . Gender is an essential characteristic of individual premortal, mortal, and eternal identity and purpose . . . We warn that the disintegration of the family will bring upon individuals, communities, and nations the calamities foretold by ancient and modern prophets." (The Family: A Proclamation to the World)
I understand this may be difficult for those of you who do not share my belief system to comprehend. From a purely secular viewpoint, defining marriage as a man and a woman doesn't totally make sense. But, my beliefs are not based on secular knowledge. My beliefs are based on faith in God and the teachings of his prophets. The book of Isaiah says "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts." (Holy Bible, Isaiah 55:8-9,)
I believe that God has greater understanding than we do. He sees the big picture, the eternal scheme of things, where we see only a small portion of it. Just because we don't understand everything doesn't mean that something isn't true. Oftentimes, both in religious matters, and in secular matters, things initially don't make sense, but turn out to be for our benefit. Did it make sense to people in the 1800s when doctors suggested that sickness came from tiny, invisible life forms? Did it make sense for Washington to attempt to stop the powerful British army with a ragtag band of half-starved and frozen farmers? Did it make sense for God to command Abraham to sacrifice his only son, to tell Noah to build an ark in the middle of dry land, or to direct Moses to lead the Children of Israel straight into the Red Sea? Did it make sense for Jesus Christ, the only perfect person to ever live on this earth, and the literal son of God, to allow himself to be killed, even though he had the power to protect himself?
The answer is NO. None of these things made sense from a logical standpoint, yet each in each of these instances the thing that didn't make sense turned out to be the best thing in the long run. And like these examples, I know that in the long run, it will turn out to be the best thing to preserve the definition of marriage as purely heterosexual. It may not make sense now, but some day it will.
I know that I probably didn't convert anyone over to my viewpoint, and I didn't really intend to. I just hope that this piece helps those of my friends and family who support gay marriage to understand where I come from and why I feel so passionately. Please believe me when I say that I grieve deeply to hear about people who are pro-heterosexual marriage who name call or physically, emotionally or otherwise abuse or bully those who support homosexual marriage. Bullying, abuse, name-calling, and other such negative behaviors are not Christlike and are never acceptable. Even though I may disagree with those of you who support same-sex marriage, I care about you. I stand by my views, and the words of the living prophets, but I love and respect each of you, and I hope that you will show me the same love and respect, regardless of your viewpoints.
I understand this may be difficult for those of you who do not share my belief system to comprehend. From a purely secular viewpoint, defining marriage as a man and a woman doesn't totally make sense. But, my beliefs are not based on secular knowledge. My beliefs are based on faith in God and the teachings of his prophets. The book of Isaiah says "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts." (Holy Bible, Isaiah 55:8-9,)
I believe that God has greater understanding than we do. He sees the big picture, the eternal scheme of things, where we see only a small portion of it. Just because we don't understand everything doesn't mean that something isn't true. Oftentimes, both in religious matters, and in secular matters, things initially don't make sense, but turn out to be for our benefit. Did it make sense to people in the 1800s when doctors suggested that sickness came from tiny, invisible life forms? Did it make sense for Washington to attempt to stop the powerful British army with a ragtag band of half-starved and frozen farmers? Did it make sense for God to command Abraham to sacrifice his only son, to tell Noah to build an ark in the middle of dry land, or to direct Moses to lead the Children of Israel straight into the Red Sea? Did it make sense for Jesus Christ, the only perfect person to ever live on this earth, and the literal son of God, to allow himself to be killed, even though he had the power to protect himself?
The answer is NO. None of these things made sense from a logical standpoint, yet each in each of these instances the thing that didn't make sense turned out to be the best thing in the long run. And like these examples, I know that in the long run, it will turn out to be the best thing to preserve the definition of marriage as purely heterosexual. It may not make sense now, but some day it will.
I know that I probably didn't convert anyone over to my viewpoint, and I didn't really intend to. I just hope that this piece helps those of my friends and family who support gay marriage to understand where I come from and why I feel so passionately. Please believe me when I say that I grieve deeply to hear about people who are pro-heterosexual marriage who name call or physically, emotionally or otherwise abuse or bully those who support homosexual marriage. Bullying, abuse, name-calling, and other such negative behaviors are not Christlike and are never acceptable. Even though I may disagree with those of you who support same-sex marriage, I care about you. I stand by my views, and the words of the living prophets, but I love and respect each of you, and I hope that you will show me the same love and respect, regardless of your viewpoints.
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